Your relationships are both an expression of yourself and an opportunity to learn and grow as a person. Your relationships should be the most important thing in your life. But are they?
Building good relationships should be the main priority in life. How important are your personal relationships to you? How highly do you value your relationships with colleagues, acquaintances, friends, and family?
The way in which you experience relationships is a reflection of you as a person. From when you were a small baby you learned to understand your sense of self through the reactions and expressions of the people who you came into contact with. Relationships with friends, family, colleagues, etc are ongoing interactions that continually reshape and re-form your sense of self.
In this sense your own distant and intimate relationships are opportunities to learn and to grow; in fact, they are your greatest opportunity in which to do just this. From those earliest years, we learn to look to other human beings for reassurance and approval.
As adults, we do many things in this search for approval. For example, we follow trends in the clothes we wear and the food which we eat.
The more independent of us may think that we do the sorts of things which we do because we are adventurous or because we like simply to try new things out. We may laugh and say to ourselves and others that we like to “rock the boat” or rebel against “conformity”. But even in doing those things which are diverse and different from the majority of the “crowd” we are still seeking a reaction and confirmation of our sense of self.
Relationships form a huge arena in which we can learn more about ourselves, test things out and grow and stretch as a person. The types of relationships which you enter into and maintain say a lot about you as a person.
To hold back from relationships or to shy away from them effectively prevents you from growing, stretching, and changing. Your relationships, and the quality of them, reflect a learning curve of your own understanding of life. As you build good relationships you reflect good learning.
Shyness or a lack of confidence can become the enemy warriors who stand in guard at the entryway to this relationship arena. Insecure relationships are a reflection of these feelings and self-beliefs. But these are learned expressions of self-belief which can be changed so long as you know how to do so.
You may well feel that a lack of confidence keeps you imprisoned within wall upon wall of limitations. But you can unlock those doors and scale those walls with the help of hypnosis. Then you will be able to partake fully in the many opportunities that building good relationships inevitably provides for you.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Roseanna Leaton